Liz Benson, veteran Nollywood actress and evangelist, says it is ideal to quit your marriage when the union becomes excessively violent such that it poses a risk to life — irrespective of for-better-for-worse gospels.
She shared her two cents while responding to questions about divorce and child s*x education on ‘Mercy’s Menu’, a talk-and-cook show hosted by Mercy Johnson, another Nollywood actress.
Although she stated that no marriage is a bed of roses as all are plagued by tempting challenges that should be approached with perseverance, the 53-year-old TV personality favoured the need to take a break and be alive while trying to salvage a union marked by violence that cannot be cultured.
“You would have to take into cognizance what had been before the marriage, the events that have unfolded before the marriage. When you add them up to that point in the union and it doesn’t yield positive signs, then I think you have to call it a day,” the veteran actress said.
“Some would ask ‘Why is she talking like that? Marriage is supposed to be for better than for worse.’ Yes, for better for worse. But, when certain things come into play — violence that cannot be cultured or stopped. Then I think it’s better to get out, stay somewhere and be alive than to be in there and lose your life.”
Speaking on contemporary social concepts, the actress-turn-evangelist didn’t mince words in stating that she’s no feminist but believes that women have unique values to bring to the table when it comes to marriages.
“I’m not a feminist. But I believe in the woman that I’m. I believe have an inner mental ability that the other doesn’t have. I build on it, live with it and progress in it. Just be yourself and you wouldn’t need words like feminist and feminism,” she added.
“It’s not unwise for women to make many sacrifices in marriage. It’s only that we feel sometimes underappreciated. If you catch your spouse committing something, the next step is not to call it quits but you’re going to draw that power inside of this and treat it in a wiser way, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.”